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Manal Al-Sharif: The Rosa Parks of Saudi Arabia

29 May

How many of us women willingly put our freedom at risk every time we get behind the wheel of a car to run an ordinary errand, like grocery shopping? Recently, one Saudi woman, Manal Al-Sharif, took such a risk backed by the support of her brother and a well-known Saudi women’s rights activist, both of whom accompanied her in the car while she drove in plain view.  Later that day Manal posted a video on YouTube, shortly after which she was arrested but released on bail, and then arrested again in the middle of the night without a warrant.  Her crime, in the words of a Mona Eltahawy, a famous Egyptian columnist: ‘driving while female.’  Saudi Arabia, is the only country in the world that prohibits women to drive, not by law but by old standing tribal tradition.  The Saudis believe that women should be protected and kept from danger, granting them the treatment of ‘queens’ while the men act as their guardians providing them with everything they need, except well, unconditional freedom. Manal is being perceived by many now as the new Rosa Parks, and gaining world-wide support and attention for her courage to challenge tradition. It is ironic to note that there are Saudi women who travel and drive overseas and are in legal possession of international driver’s licenses,  only to get back home and have their rights revoked.  Manal, a 32-year-old Computer Security Consultant, sees herself as a practical woman of the 21st-century, and contends that it is in fact more dangerous not to be able to drive, contrary to what her patriarchal society upholds.  Call it efficiency, practicality, or just plain common sense, but what if she or a family member were to get sick for example? She wouldn’t be able to transport herself or either of them to a hospital, but instead have to wait for an arranged ride or for a male guardian to get home. Here is where tradition and practicality clash.  As Joseph Campbell so eloquently put it, our religions, myths, and traditions must be adapted to fit our modern and functional understanding of the world, otherwise they become nothing more than archaic fairy tale like machinations of an extant world with which we can no longer identify. In light of all the exciting changes taking place in the Middle East, Manal, like many other women in that part of the world today believe they are standing at the threshold of a new age.  She is the inspiration for a new generation of women whose voices are now starting to reverberate worldwide, thanks to social media groups and the internet, like that of a young Saudi tweeter who recently posted: ‘Wedo not need a guardian or someone to watch out for us, in order to keep our purity and honor.’ She could’ve well added to that, BUT WE DO NEED CARS!  As of May 27th, Al-Sharif’s detention in prison has been extended to another 10 days while authorities decide how they should handle her case. Despite her ordeal, and as her 5-year-old son is in the hospital with an infection, Manal remains positive and believes in the judicial system, confident that she will receive a fair trial.  Her Facebook page has attracted 2086 followers thus far since her apprehension on May 23rd, as more people everywhere are rallying in her favor.

Please share this story, in support of this outstanding young woman, and her undeniable victory – a victory which in the end we can all partake in and be proud of.  For further information you can also log on to RightSideNews.com and ArabNews.com.

REBIRTH INTO SPRING

26 Apr

“In this life you’re reborn every moment. Every single second is a rebirth, a time when we re-create ourselves and our self-concepts. Every moment, there’s a new YOU.” – Lama Surya Das

“We carry about with us the burden of what thousands of people have said and the memories of all our misfortunes. To abandon all that totally is to be alone, and the mind that is alone is not only innocent but young and only such a mind can see that which is truth and that which is not measurable by words.”-Krishnamurti

It has been a long winter. In some ways I feel like it has been the longest winter yet.  At least the most challenging by far. But somehow, yet again, I’ve managed to survive the anguish of isolation and discontent that this season brings for me.   And the only reason I think I have ‘survived’ is because I had nowhere to run and nowhere to hide. Winter was my keeper.  I spent excruciating days and hours locked away from nature, within the confines of structured walls surrounded by brick and concrete.  No colorful flowers to gaze upon, days devoid of sunshine, the sound of birds obsolete.  As I’m putting this into words a new thoughtform arises: maybe I can equate winter with a stern yet highly valuable teacher rather than a fierce and dreaded foe.  For it was during this long, excruciating period of ‘death’ and ‘dying’ and being forced into seclusion, at least my own self imposed seclusion, that everything came to a head and was forced to reflect on and confront the obstacles in my own life. Those cyclical obstacles that we all keep encountering but are too eager to dismiss or blame on external sources.  The same question of ‘why am I here, and what am I doing here – again?”  Tibetan lamas believe that only through acknowledging the ever presence of death can we truly experience life: living every day as if we are dying. To me winter has always symbolized death.  In fact we are dying every minute, every second, as cells and tissues in our bodies degenerate.  But like the skin of a snake and the new cycle of life that spring inevitably brings we also regenerate. So is death then merely an illusion, since life brings death and death bring on new life?  Are obstacles an illusion.  Is winter the illusion of an obstacle for me?  Let’s just say that I agree with the Buddhist philosophy – that through honoring the omnipresence of death we can fully appreciate and honor that gift that is life. And only through death we can experience rebirth hence the never-ending cycle of existence.  And to complete the full circle perhaps I can now come to view winter as merely cyclical – the teacher that enabled my own rebirth – the birth into a new spring, into a new beginning, into a new Self.

So this spring I commit myself to my own rebirth. Shedding the past and harnessing my newly gained wisdom.  The wisdom I have acquired from trying to resist something by camouflaging it into something different than its true form time and time again – in this case winter, my teacher in disguise.  I want to give myself the gift of trust.  I want and choose to trust in my own potential for transformation.  In my own ability to release myself from everything that has kept me attached to old habits and old fears.  We all deserve the chance to release ourselves from the old stories that have shaped our past, the stories we got caught up in along the way, the stories we made up about ourselves, and the stories other people imposed onto us.  My official rebirth into spring began this past weekend. On my birthday, with everything in full bloom.  I chose to celebrate the day of my birth in the Catskill Mountains at a Buddhist monastery.  This year more than any other I wanted to make it about renewal, a symbolic gesture to be reborn and awakened into new beginning, a new year, a new chapter of my evolution.  There was nothing I wanted more than to surrender. Surrender to nothingness and everything at once.  The thought of spending a full day in meditation was beautiful and daunting all at once. What would I find in the black infinite space of my mind disconnected from the world and all its distractions?

I took off my shoes, entered the shrine room and stood face to face with a giant golden Buddha, bathed in the incandescence of dozens of prayer candles and red silk scrolls hanging from the walls. I felt instant peace, and whatever apprehension I had thus far dissipated like morning mist. Suddenly I was meditating in the presence of a Tibetan lama, who chanted the sacred teachings of the Dharma, praying for compassion and the happiness of all sentient and non-sentient beings. I prayed to the delicate sound of a meditation bell and the powerful thunder of a gong and tried to release my mind from clinging.  I prayed for my own happiness and felt torn for not exercising selflessness. But compassion begins with the Self, I remembered.  I think I’m getting somewhere. I hope I am. I watched ‘non-attachment’ play hide-and-seek in my head, as my mind seemed to cling to everything that tied me to the past like a stubborn velcro. I cannot say that I triumphed in the end, but I certainly was able to catch a glimpse of what lies on the other side. I saw a crystal clear lake with water lilies floating on its surface. I smiled. My victory manifested itself in a few brief and fragile moments when I allowed myself to surrender and experience the beauty of the present moment –  a present removed from any ties to the past – newly born, like my own rebirth into spring.

What is the ‘gift of rebirth’ you would like to grant to yourself this spring?  What would you like to shed like an old garment that no longer fits you? Remember, every moment there is a new you – or the real you that you have been somehow suppressing.  Who is that person today?

APRIL CHALLENGE: Host Your Own Green Party For Earth Day!

3 Apr

AS WE CELEBRATE THE 40TH ANNIVERSARY OF EARTH DAY, BE THE CHANGE YOU WANT TO SEE IN OTHERS!

You know by now that you can count on IndieWoman to show you a multitude of ways you can make a difference in your life and those around you, by staying in touch, being aware, and sharing your valuable knowledge and resources for a greater good. We are not here to promote the latest fashions, or tell you how you can lose weight. WE ARE HERE TO INSPIRE YOU TO LIVE THE BEST LIFE YOU CAN LIVE!

There is nothing better than waking up in the morning with a sense of purpose, and the anticipation of accomplishing something worthwhile with your day. I certainly felt that way as I geared up to attend the Go Green Expo in New York City a couple of weeks ago. That is because I went there with the sole mission of uncovering the best and latest eco-products to share with you just in time for Earth Day. Out of this came the idea of allowing you to share all those newly uncovered  green goodies with as many friends as possible, by indulging in the un-guilty pleasure of hosting not just any party but a GREEEN PARTY!  The idea is to use as many environmentally friendly and recycled products as possible in setting up for your party, from cleaning products, to invitation cards, to plates, to glasses, to candles, etc.  To make your event even greener get your guests involved and make it a Green Theme Party, whereby each guest brings their favorite eco-product wrapped up for a Secret Santa type gifting with a prize for the best gift of the night! Make sure you tell them a toilet paper roll doesn’t count as a gift though!  As an idea, I would recommend that the winner receive a bottle of organic bubbly or wine from the host.  The plan is to get people to learn about as many different eco-products as possible by simply sharing their gifts and ideas.  I can’t think of a better way to get people to get to know each other and to interact. Plus, who doesn’t love opening gifts while sipping on an organic cocktail?  The sky is the limit here. Hint: think organic vodka. I leave the rest up to you.

Here are some great products you can incorporate in setting up for your party.  As always, remember to support your local smaller vendors first. If you know a smaller distributor or shop in your city, support your community by shopping there.  They need you more than the Wal-Mart a few blocks away!

www.thetotebuddy.com

* Clean up with safe green cleaning products! I found this great innovative woman-owned company that I thought was just great: www.greeensafeclean.com.  Sure, you can now easily find the bigger enviro friendly brands at your local supermarket, the likes of Seventh Generation (which is perfectly acceptable), but what is different about Green Safe Clean is the fact that you can literally spray the contents into your mouth and you’ll be fine. They make everything from carpet cleaners, to detergents, to dish soap. And everything comes in a pretty refillable bottle!

* Mail your invites on eco-friendly recycled paper! How about making it a point to buy tree-free stationary paper from now on? This is a great company if you’re looking for lots of options, www.filedpapercompany.com,  and offering beautiful faux paper products made of hemp, seeds, and bamboo. You can also grow your own plant from  their handmade plantable seed paper!  Talk about a unique sustainable product!

* Go shopping with reusable shopping bags! This is the easiest step in going green, yet most people either forget to bring recyclable bags when they go shopping, or they simply don’t have enough non-plastic bags to go around. Problem solved! The Tote  Buddy from www.thetotebuddy.com includes 3 jumbo size reusable grocery bags that easily disguise and fold into the cutest tote imaginable.  Leave it to a savyy lady to combine fashion with a reusable grocery bag. You go girl!

* Set your table with sustainable runners and place mats!  Bamboo placemats and runners are the way to go.  I love the sophistication and design of this Sandy Chilewich runner available on www.burkedecor.com.  You can also find more of this New York textile designer’s tabletop products at Sur La Table, one of my favorite home decor stores, or go directly to her website to view her entire collection.

* Light up your room with organic non-toxic candles! This is a great site which lists a variety of vendors and products: www.greenpromise.com. I also found a smaller vendor at the Green Expo, based out of New York, and her candles smelled delicious! Visit www.organicpurelife.com, and check out all the other eco-friendly products on the site.

Now you have all the tips and componets for throwing an unforgettable Green Party for Earth Day! 

Let us know what other great ideas you have to celebrate Earth Day, and send us your recipes for a deliciously themed Organic Green Cocktail to get your party started!

MARCH CHALLENGE: Dare To Make A Difference!

10 Mar

WHY SEPARATE YOUR SPIRITUAL LIFE AND YOUR PRACTICAL LIFE?  TO AN INTEGRAL BEING, THERE IS NO SUCH DISTINCTION. – Lao Tzu

I think becoming a better person involves more than just caring.  It involves DOING! That’s why I have made a commitment that from now on I will become ACTIVELY involved in some kind of volunteer work and donate my time at least once every month partaking in a good deed. CAN YOU BE INSPIRED TO MAKE A DIFFERENCE AND TAKE THIS CHALLENGE WITH ME? How often have you tried to convince others and yourself that you are not selfish by buying someone a gift, however small, so that you could make yourself feel good on the inside?  The ironic thing is that the best things in life are often free.  Like Love.  Like receiving or giving someone a hug.

We forget in this materialistic world that we don’t have to always pay for something to make someone feel good, for the most valuable things in life can never be bought. The most powerful way of gifting is from the soul not from the wallet.

Since I live in a coastal area and feel deeply blessed to live near the ocean, I will be participating in an effort to clean up the local beaches of Long Island on March 13th, called Operation SPLASH (Stop Polluting Littering And Save Harbors).  I am a big proponent of keeping our oceans and beaches clean not only for us but for our lovely animal co-inhabitants.  Maybe I’ll finally get to see a seal close-up! And besides, the ocean is synonymous with Life, Spirit, and our Mother Earth, and for all those years that it has given me something immensely precious I feel I owe it something in return.  And if it rains and the clean-up is on hold this weekend, then and I can go to ARF and volunteer to take a dog or two for a walk.  It often escapes us, or we just don’t realize how amazingly connected to Life we feel when we step outside of our mundane and self-preoccupied existence and reach out to connect to a higher purpose besides ourselves.

I’ll never forget how I felt one day upon encountering an elderly woman asking for food in front of a well known bakery in New York. I had got up early one weekend to get in line to buy a delicious puffed pastry that I had been dreaming of for days.  Honestly, I could think of nothing more than to satisfy my craving that morning.  I would have walked through a snow storm to get to that bakery! As I stepped out of the shop victoriously with my deliriously enticing warm pastry in hand I saw the old raggedly dressed lady standing near the door.   I felt such guilt looking straight into her worn watery eyes.  As funny as this may sound, I wanted that pastry more than anything else on earth that day, yet I felt conflicted. I wanted to keep on walking but I paused and thought how much better I would feel beyond just filling my own belly and indulging my own whims.  It’s so much harder to give away something you really want, and I understood that.  This was a true test. Could I do this – could I just hand over my highly coveted possession to a stranger ?  I had only taken enough money for one pastry, so buying another one was not an option.

I thought to myself what it had taken for that woman to put her pride aside and ask for a handout, and I felt my heart breaking. Surely she must have been somebody’s mother, somebody’s daughter, somebody’s something. In that moment the spell broke and I reached out my hand to hers and gave her the most delicious pastry I had ever bought but never got to taste.  It was the most incredible feeling in the world.  As I turned to walk away I heard the greatest words spoken back to me: God Bless You.  Deep down inside that was worth so much more than any feeling of bodily self satisfaction – and I realized in that moment that the act of giving is actually the very act that sets us FREE!

HAPPY GIVING…and we are eagerly waiting to hear back from YOU with your own “Dare To Make A Difference” March Challenge!


Living the Life You Were Meant to LIVE is Within Reach!

9 Jan

Tim Ferris the author of The 4-Hour Work Week has inspired thousands to leave their dark cubby holes and stressful 10 to 14 hour work days and seek out a more meaningful way of making ‘a living’ by actually LIVING!  Here are some great inspirational stories!

'Life's a beach' by Claudia Ghetu

http://www.fourhourworkweek.com/blog/2009/12/31/cold-remedy-15-real-world-lifestyle-design-case-studies-now-its-your-turn/#more-2536

On your mark…get set… GOOOO!!!

You can purchase the book by logging on to www.fourhourworkweek.com

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